In my FAML 300 class this is a list that we were given of
ways we can be prideful in our marriages. Take a look through them, as some of
them may surprise you.
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• Ignore spouse, or give spouse the
"cold shoulder”
• Impatient with impatience • Caught up in who’s right and who’s wrong • Blaming, defensiveness • Attack, counterattack • Scorekeeping, with intentions of noting who is winning or losing • Refusal to apologize first • Holding the other hostage by refusing to forgive • Proving superiority by bringing up spouse’s faults • Holding grudges • The “silent treatment” |
• Sharing spouse’s weaknesses with
others
• Intentionally trying to create jealousies in spouse • Get others to create an alliance with you against your spouse • Putting words in spouse’s mouth to manipulate • Displaying an attitude of entitlement in the marriage • Stubbornness or unwillingness to change • Selfishness, thinking only of your needs • Unwillingness to learn from spouse • Fault finding • Withholding love and affection |
In my marriage the little pride games that are played
between my husband and I include the silent treatment, defensiveness, and score
keeping. For playing these games, we pay the price of a little damage to our
relationship, hurt feelings, and often times miscommunication.
